I think this is an absolute lost cause for the right in political terms. It has majority approval from the general public and overwhelming approval from millennials, despite a vocal minority of Americans opposing it. It’s not going to work. The left has won this on ‘civil rights’ grounds and from appeal to emotion. Only homophobic bigots are against gay marriage. Trying to block the Supreme Court’s ruling on a state by state basis is going to be a long sideshow and a major distraction from the issues that the right needs to deal with urgently, such as immigration and protecting Anglo-American culture and civilization.
But this doesn’t mean that the right, from entry-level Americlap conservatives to full-on fascists, have to accept this redefinition of marriage as “two people of any orientation who romantically love each other and want to file their taxes together.” The Supreme Court ruling is a bit of a slap in the face, but the heavy blows were already dealt. Even without the full force of law and public opinion behind gay “marriage,” the institution has been in decline and under assault from other fronts for decades. Feminism, materialism, consumerism, you name it; the nuclear family of a heterosexual monogamous couple with 2.1 biological children on average has been in downward free-fall because of changing social conditions and mores. According to Pew Research Center:
Less than half (46%) of U.S. kids younger than 18 years of age are living in a home with two married heterosexual parents in their first marriage. This is a marked change from 1960, when 73% of children fit this description, and 1980, when 61% did, according to a Pew Research Center analysis of recently-released American Community Survey (ACS) and Decennial Census data.
Americans are delaying marriage, and more may be foregoing the institution altogether. At the same time, the share of children born outside of marriage now stands at 41%, up from just 5% in 1960. While debate continues as to whether divorce rates have been rising or falling in recent decades, it’s clear that in the longer term, the share of people who have been previously married is rising, as is remarriage.
One of the largest shifts in family structure is this: 34% of children today are living with an unmarried parent—up from just 9% in 1960, and 19% in 1980. In most cases, these unmarried parents are single.
So no, gay marriage won’t be the nail in the coffin, but it doesn’t help. If anything, it finally throws the definition of marriage out the window, well after its de facto meaning was eroded. But what was that meaning? Does it even matter?
One of the problems that advocates of traditional marriage run into is that many rely on religious conventions to justify their beliefs about the institution. This just makes them look worse when they try to oppose gay marriage or defend traditional marriage because religion, particularly Christianity, is something that people are increasingly abandoning. Again from Pew Research Center, which I highly recommend to anyone interested in reading up on demographic trends:
The percentage of adults (ages 18 and older) who describe themselves as Christians has dropped by nearly eight percentage points in just seven years, from 78.4% in an equally massive Pew Research survey in 2007 to 70.6% in 2014. Over the same period, the percentage of Americans who are religiously unaffiliated – describing themselves as atheist, agnostic or “nothing in particular” – has jumped more than six points, from 16.1% to 22.8%.
One of the most important factors in the declining share of Christians and the growth of the “nones” is generational replacement. As the Millennial generation enters adulthood, its members display much lower levels of religious affiliation, including less connection with Christian churches, than older generations. Fully 36% of young Millennials (those between the ages of 18 and 24) are religiously unaffiliated, as are 34% of older Millennials (ages 25-33). And fewer than six-in-ten Millennials identify with any branch of Christianity, compared with seven-in-ten or more among older generations, including Baby Boomers and Gen-Xers.
So in the near future around half of all Americans will essentially be unconvinced of anything argued from a religious slant. This is inevitable and something that cannot be fought. The old faith is dying, like paganism before it. Man’s religious impulse has been channeled into other areas however. For some it is “patriotism,” an implicitly white but not white nationalist nationalism that glorifies the Union and democracy, for others it is Progress and Diversity™. Either way, god will not save marriage.
What will save marriage is an individual approach to the issue that rejects the perspective being sold now, that marriage is just a thing two people who love each other do when they want to file taxes together and be covered by each other’s insurance. That’s a cargo cult of marriage, an imitation. You don’t need the government or the media to tell you what marriage means; most people on the right, so long as they aren’t signaling to liberals, know intuitively that it’s one man + one woman = children. That’s it. This is something that the right must be unrepentant and relentless over, for the sake of metapolitics. You exist to reproduce and monogamous heterosexual marriage is a reproductive strategy that promotes a stable society and paternal investment in child-rearing. That last part is critical to the institution, so important that in most divorces, women get custody of the children and men are required to pay for their upkeep. So implicitly, the biggest threat to marriage is the laxness of our divorce laws, and that women are not required to remain wedded to their husbands in order to receive support from them. Of course, there are husbands and fathers that suck, but giving women and the state full control over marriage does nothing to mitigate that; it encourages irresponsible reproductive and matrimonial behavior since getting divorced is extremely easy. No amount of gay couples LARPing as married people is going to change this problem. The most important thing you can do to save the institution of marriage is to marry someone for love, children and stability.